Loving others is easy so why do we struggle so much when it comes to ourselves? With so much focus on couples on Valentine's Day we thought it was time to start thinking about the most important person in your life... you.
Spend some time alone
And yes, this means turning off your phone.
We live in a world where we are contactable 24/7, and while this makes things super convenient most of the time, it also means that our brains and bodies are constantly on the ready- even when there is nobody else around. Taking time on our own for rest and rejuvenation is extremely beneficial for our emotions and overall wellbeing and is a great chance to reconnect with ourselves. Even better, you can tie this one in with doing something you enjoy, like reading a book or a listening to your favourite music.
We know you know this. Physical activity produces endorphins which in turn boosts our mood, but we also know that putting it into practice can be a little easier said than done. We are not suggesting you go out and torture yourself Biggest Loser style but we do recommend adding some gentle exercise to your routine. Whether it’s trying a new yoga class, a weekly swim or a simple walk around the block, we can guarantee that your body and mind will feel the benefits in no time.
Write yourself a love letter
You can make this as long or short as you like but be sure to take the time to think about the qualities to you admire in you. We are so attuned to seeing the good in others but when it comes to ourselves it is often our faults and flaws that immediately jump to mind. Are you a good listener? Do you love helping others? Do you have amazing calf muscles? Write it down, remind yourself. You may be surprised at how good this makes you feel… after all who doesn’t love receiving compliments?
If you think about it, there is a difference between a treat and a reward. A treat is something we give for no reason and often only provides only short term happiness; a tub of ice cream or a completely impractical pair of shoes that you probably paid way too much money for. A reward on the other hand is a gift to give yourself after acknowledging your hard work or achievements and should have a longer lasting impact on your overall wellbeing. Reward yourself with a long overdue massage, join the local library, or book a holiday. Just don’t forget to give yourself a pat on the back when you do.
Pay it forward
Trust us when we say that there is almost nothing that will make you feel better than doing something wonderful for somebody else. Volunteering for a charity is likely to give you all the feels but for the slightly time poor, there are plenty of ways to help others closer to home. Drop off a meal to a friend, send flowers to somebody for no reason at all or pay for somebody else’s coffee, anything that will make somebody smile. Small acts of kindness may not change the world, but they certainly make a difference and that’s something to feel great about.